Wednesday, December 15, 2010

Semester is finally over

So the school semester is finally over... YAY!!! I was taking courses online through the college I was attending when I lived in Maryland... It was a tough adjustment going from classes in a classroom to online... I have figured out how to do better with online classes for next semester since I kinda screwed this semester up...

This semester has been so crazy busy I don't know how I survived it... I had my classes and homework that had to be done... I also had my social life explode after I left my ex... I was invited to lots of get togethers, parties and other since stuff... That on top of the LARP I do... Its amazing I was able to make it through the semester...

Well I do not have much to say just so happy I am done for the semester... Glad to have a break... Now if only I could find a job...

Monday, November 22, 2010

A common question

Ok... So I have been single now for 4 months... I am loving it... The freedom it allows and everything that comes with being single... I just wonder about something... This something is the most commonly asked question to me since July... "Do you have a new boyfriend yet?"... Why is it that people when they talk to me that that is the first question out of their mouths??? No I do not have a boyfriend... Then they proceed to ask me oh how come??? Really??? Is it that hard to believe that a woman does not see the need for a man to constantly be in her life???

No I don't have a boyfriend yet... No I don't care that I don't... I am enjoying doing things for me for once and not having to worry about what my significant other might think of what I am doing or wearing or where I am going or who I am hanging out with... It is a nice feeling having this kind of freedom... I am really enjoying myself for the first time in a long time... I do not have a NEED to have a boyfriend... If it happens it happens but it is not something that I have been trying for... I mean I spent 3 years and 9 months with a "man" that probably barely deserved to go a full year with me let alone nearly 4 years so sorry if me enjoying being single is a hard concept to grasp...

Another thing that also has been driving me a little bananas is that people keep thinking that I am dating my room mate... no i am not dating him and i am not dating ANYONE at the moment... why is it that when a guy and girl have an apartment that they share people think that they have to be more than friends... What is with people??? I think that guys and girls can be friends... actually I know that they can because a good majority of my friends are guys... Why is it that people find it odd for a guy and girl to be just friends or for a girl to not care if she has a boyfriend or not??? Honestly people this is NOT the 1950's anymore...

Sorry for the rant... I hate ranting about stuff like this but sometimes you just need to purge what drives you crazy... That is what I did... My next blog should not be so ranty next time...

Thursday, November 4, 2010

This is my tribute to the nice girls.

To the nice girls who are overlooked, who become friends and nothing more, who spend hours fixating upon their looks and their personalities and their actions because it must be they that are doing something wrong, This is for the girls who don't give it up on the first date, who don't want to play mind games, who provide a comforting hug and a supportive audience for a story they've heard a thousand times. This is for the girls who understand that they aren't perfect and that the guys they're interested in aren't either, for the girls who flirt and laugh and worry and obsess over the slightest glance, whisper, touch, because somehow they are able to keep alive that hope that maybe... maybe this time he'll have understood. This is an homage to the girls who laugh loud and often, who are comfortable in skirts and sweats and combat boots, who care more than they should for guys who don't deserve their attention. This is for those girls who have been in the trenches, who have watched other girls time and time again fake up and make up and fuck up the guys in their lives without saying a word. This is for the girls who have been there from the beginning and have heard the trite words of advice, from "there are plenty of fish in the sea," to "time heals all wounds." This is to honor those girls who know that guys are just as scared as they are, who know that they deserve better, who are seeking to find it.

This is for the girls who have never been in love, but know that it's an experience that they don't want to miss out on. For the girls who have sought a night with friends and been greeted by a night of catcalling, rude comments and explicit invitations that they'd rather not have experienced. This is for the girls who have spent their weekends sitting on the sidelines of a beer pong tournament or a case race, or playing Florence Nightingale for a vomiting guy friend or a comatose crush, who have received a drunk phone call just before dawn from someone who doesn't care enough to invite them over but is still willing to pass out in their bed. This is for the girls who have left sad song lyrics in their away messages, who have tried to make someone understand through a subliminally appealing profile, who have time and time again dropped their male friend hint after hint after hint only to watch him chase after the first blonde girl in a skirt. This is for the girls who have been told that they're too good or too smart or too pretty, who have been given compliments as a way of breaking off a relationship, who have ever been told they are only wanted as a friend.

This one's for the girls who you can take home to mom, but won't because it's easier to sleep with a whore than foster a relationship; this is for the girls who have been led on by words and kisses and touches, all of which were either only true for the moment, or never real to begin with. This is for the girls who have allowed a guy into their head and heart and bed, only to discover that he's just not ready, he's just not over her, he's just not looking to be tied down; this is for the girls who believe the excuses because it's easier to believe that it's not that they don't want you, it's that they don't want anyone. This is for the girls who have had their hearts broken and their hopes dashed by someone too cavalier to have cared in the first place; this is for the nights spent dissecting every word and syllable and inflection in his speech, for the nights when you've returned home alone, for the nights when you've seen from across the room him leaning a little too close, or standing a little too near, or talking a little too softly for the girl he's with to be a random hookup. This is for the girls who have endured party after party in his presence, finally having realized that it wasn't that he didn't want a relationship: it was that he didn't want you. I honor you for the night his dog died or his grandmother died or his little brother crashed his car and you held him, thinking that if you only comforted him just right, or said the right words, or rubbed his back in the right way then perhaps he'd realize what it was that he already had. This is for the night you realized that it would never happen, and the sunrise you saw the next morning after failing to sleep.

This is for the "I really like you, so let's still be friends" comment after you read more into a situation than he ever intended; this is for never realizing that when you choose friends, you seldom choose those which make you cry yourself to sleep. This is for the hugs you've received from your female friends, for the nights they've reassured you that you are beautiful and intelligent and amazing and loyal and truly worthy of a great guy; this is for the despair you all felt as you sat in the aftermath of your tears, knowing that that night the only companionship you'd have was with a pillow and your teddy bear. This is for the girls who have been used and abused, who have endured what he was giving because at least he was giving something; this is for the stupidity of the nights we've believed that something was better than nothing, though his something was nothing we'd have ever wanted. This is for the girls who have been satisified with too little and who have learned never to expect anything more: for the girls who don't think that they deserve more, because they've been conditioned for so long to accept the scraps thrown to them by guys.

This is what I don't understand. Men sit and question and whine that girls are only attracted to the mean guys, the guys who berate them and belittle them and don't appreciate them and don't want them; who use them for sex and think of little else than where their next conquest will be made. Men complain that they never meet nice girls, girls who are genuinely interested and compelling, who are intelligent and sweet and smart and beautiful; men despair that no good women want to share in their lives, that girls play mindgames, that girls love to keep them hanging. Yet, men, I ask you: were you to meet one of these genuinely interested, thrillingly compelling, interesting and intelligent and sweet and beautiful and smart girls, were you to give her your number and wait for her to call... and if you were to receive a call from her the next day and she, in her truthful, loyal, intelligent and straightforward nice girl fashion, were to tell you that she finds you intriguing and attractive and interesting and worth her time and perhaps material from which she could fashion a boyfriend, would you or would you not immediately call your friends to tell them of the "stalker chick" you'd met the night prior, who called you and wore her heart on her sleeve and told the truth? And would you, or would you not, refuse to make plans with her, speak with her, see her again, and once again return to the bar or club or party scene and search once more for this "nice girl" who you just cannot seem to find? Because therein lies the truth, guys: we nice girls are everywhere. But you're not looking for a nice girl. You're not looking for someone genuinely interested in your intermural basketball game, or your anatomy midterm grade, or that argument you keep having with your father; you're looking for a quick fix, a night when you can pretend to have a connection with another human being which is just as disposable as the condom you were using during it.

So don't say you're on the lookout for nice girls, guys, when you pass us up on every step you take. Sometimes we go undercover; sometimes we go in disguise: sometimes when that girl in the low cut shirt or the too tight miniskirt won't answer your catcalls, sometimes you're looking at a nice girl in whore's clothing - - we might say we like the attention, we might blush and giggle and turn back to our friends, but we're all thinking the same thing: "This isn't me. Tomorrow morning, I'll be wearing a teeshirt and flannel shorts, I'll have slept alone and I'll be making my hungover best friend breakfast. See through the disguise. See me." You never do. Why? Because you only see the exterior, you only see the slutty girl who welcomes those advances. You don't want the nice girl.. so don't say you're looking for a relationship: relationships take time and energy and intent, three things we're willing to extend - - but in return, we're looking for compassion and loyalty and trust, three things you never seem willing to express. Maybe nice guys finish last, but in the race they're running they're chasing after the whores and the sluts and the easy-targets... the nice girls are waiting at the finish line with water and towels and a congradulatory hug (and yes, if she's a nice girl and she likes you, the sweatiness probably won't matter), hoping against hope that maybe you'll realize that they're the ones that you want at the end of that silly race.

Tuesday, November 2, 2010

Birthday Shenanigans

So if you know me then you know my birthday is Halloween... I must say that this is the most awesome birthday to have EVER!!!! Well my friend we shall call Leprechaun has the same birthday as me... really cool... I went to a LARP event in Ohio for my birthday...The pic is me and my friend in our gypsy garb for the LARP. It was really cold out... but i guess that is what happens in Ohio on halloween weekend... It was a lot of fun... We had to leave a little early though because we had to go to the Bengals vs. Dolphins game at Bengals stadium...
It was a great time... The Bengals lost unfortunately but Leperchaun and I had a great time... He was excited cuz it was his first professional football game and we were so close to the field it was amazing...


That photo is not really zoomed in either... just enough so that i did not get dudes cowboy hat in the shot... lol... we were 12 rows up from the endzone... then my uncle took us on a behind the scenes look at the stadium... it was awesome... Awesome birthday!!!

Wednesday, August 25, 2010

Busy Busy Busy

Well life as you could probably tell has been rather busy... What with LARP events, job hunting and visiting dad... It's been nuts... But it has also been a lot of fun...

So the thing that has been eluding me throughout all of this has been sleep... I have had so many bouts of Insomnia lately that I feel like I have suitcases under my eyes not just bags... Then when I do sleep it seems like my dreams are weird or nightmares... I am usually glad when I pass out from exhaustion because that means a nice deep dreamless sleep....

LARPing has been fun... I have pretty much done it every weekend for the last couple weeks... I always love doing this... It is a nice escape from reality... Especially when you play a gypsy like I do... They are so much fun to play...

I also had a visit with my father and sister... It was nice...

I am excited that I get to start school Monday... It will be nice to have something that I am used to... After leaving the dead weight behind and moving I haven't had anything familiar and it has been hard... I mean yeah I had the LARP but that was around before Maryland... I had to leave my job and friends... I am staying with a friend and have friends that live nearby but it is still tough because I had public transportation where I was at before now not so much... Now I get to have something familiar... CLASSES!!! I don't think I was this excited when I originally started back to school... lol... Well all... hopefully I will get back on track with this... Till then remember that "there is no day but today"- RENT so live it like it is the last one you get...

Thursday, August 19, 2010

Long Time

So it has been awhile since I posted... Sorry... I have been insanely busy and have barely gotten online...

I moved out of Mark's place... FINALLY!!! Our relationship ended a long time ago but I was stuck due to not having a place to go... That is what great friends are for though... I had a friend offer the spare room in the apartment they have to me... I was able to get away and I did... Don't get me wrong there was a time when I loved Mark dearly but it fell away and sometimes I really think I stayed not only cuz of the living situation but also because I didn't want to leave his kids...

I have been going to LARP events more frequently... I have gone to a get together or two... I am finally living and not just surviving life for the first time in almost 4 years... I am enjoying being single... granted I do miss the kids but eventually that won't hurt as much as it does now...

well till the next time whenever that may be...

Thursday, July 22, 2010

A Fresh Start

Sooo... I have been with the same man for 3 years and 9 months and it all ended a couple nights ago(no details his daughter may read this)... This means a fresh start... Luckily I have some of the best friends a girl can ask for...

My friends have offered me places to crash for a night... they have also offered me a place to hang out on weekends... Others have also been checking in with me and saying if there is anything I can do let me know... My friends and family have been so great... One friend (my ginger rom friend) has even offered me a place to stay...

The only things about this fresh start that suck are that I can not finish the summer school program at work because I have to leave... I also had to drop my summer classes so I could leave... But that is the only down side...

Again I look forward to my fresh start though it is a little scary... I know I will be ok because I have the greatest and most supportive friends in the world... Thank you guys... I love you all very much...

Sunday, July 11, 2010

Silly Me

I am an idiot folks... sooo... it was like 100+ degrees for about 3 days last week... I take the bus to and from school and the news said that healthy people should avoid being outside between certain hours... well i was under the weather and decided that standing on 4 bus stops (that is round trip) and then getting on a bus where I am likely to get one or two out of 4 maybe even all of them where the AC doesnt work... so i decided that it would be a good idea to not go to class on Tuesday and Wednesday... HAHAHA...

I had a 4 hour math class on Tuesday and a couple hours of health and wellness on Wednesday... Health is not a problem but missing 4 hours of stats was like shooting myself in the foot... luckily my good friend cigar freak (click the link or your computer will explode... lol) who is incredible and should be called Superman from this point on in this blog(he won't be because his blog is cigar freak-- hey look there is that link again--) because he always helps me with my math... he may have saved me from totally bombing a test on Tuesday that is on the material from the week before...

Silly me... I am so glad that cigar freak (there is that pesky link again just click the darn thing already) is my friend because he totally rocks and is a total life saver... ok this is the end of this blog so seriously click one of the links above... do it... do it now... oh jeeze... I give up... CLICK IT!!! Cigar Freak

Saturday, June 19, 2010

Summer Fun




When I was a kid I enjoyed summer but always found myself bored because well as a kid the most I could do was go to my next door neighbors house a play... Don't get me wrong I had a lot of fun there but it got old by about 3 weeks into the summer... This summer however so far has been non stop...

As I said in my last blog I went to OA/HI to learn about Phi Theta Kappa and stuff officers of chapters should know... I also went to my friends wedding... I spent a week in NY and caught up with old friends...



Now my friend who is quite the adventurer (and if you click the link there you will get to his blog) took me to Delta quarries with my old man... It was a lot of fun... Apparently all my adventuring buddy (2nd chance-check out his blog already)does is find different cool spots... This should be a fun summer...
My adverturing friend and my boyfriend

The quarry


Look how clear the water is

On top of adventuring I will also be doing my LARP that I used to do and couldn't get to due to my inability to drive... It is a lot of fun... I basically get to go out into the woods and beat people with foam weaponry... It is a good stress reliever and I think a fun time... I play in NJ (oh look yet another link-click it) with a few of my friends, cigar freak (check out his blog too- JUST DO IT)...

Hopefully my summer does not go the way of my childhood summers and become dull dull dull by the time I am a month into it... Have a fun and safe summer everyone...

Wednesday, June 16, 2010

Crazy Busy




Ok... So it has been super crazy busy these last few weeks...

The first thing that made it so busy was going to my LARP... well it isn't MY LARP persay but I do go to it... It is always so much fun and I have missed doing it for the time I was not able to get there... My friends didn't dark side with me but I had fun kicking their butts as I am sure they had fun trying to beat me down... I know that the wording used doesn't make it sound fun because I am saying that my friends and I beat each other all weekend but it is... we use boffer weapons so that it doesn't hurt unless they are swung like a baseball bat... It was a great weekend with great people and I will be back at it over the July 4th weekend... YAY!!!

After the LARP I had work and then the end of the work week I pretty much went to NY... I don't make it up there enough but I did make it for my friends wedding... It was great and a lot of fun... I spent the week up there visiting with friends and my mom...
The town I come from

This is actually in the town I am from

On the walk to the town park

After Charlie the unicorn (obviously a nickname cause I am not that crazy) picked up my boyfriend and myself and brought us home I only got to spend ONE night in my own bed... It was off to OA/HI the next day... OA/HI stands for Officer's Academy/ Honors Institute... Basically sleep deprivation and learning about Phi Theta Kappa from the 10th to the 13th... It was fun... For those who don't know Phi Theta Kappa is the international honor society of 2 year colleges... Unfortunately I have not put the pics in my comp yet but once I do I will put them in the blog...

Life has been so busy lately and now I finally get some time to relax till my classes start on Monday... sigh... Till next time...

Thursday, May 27, 2010

Randomness

So it has been awhile since I posted a blog... This may get a little random(as the title suggests) due to the many thoughts that race through my head at once... Try to bear with me folks... LOL...

I posted a previous blog talking about Smart Cars... Well I recently saw one in a driveway while on the bus to college... I busted out laughing... It looked so ridiculous parked in the driveway... It looked like one of the kids in the house left their toy in the driveway...

The college semester ended about a week ago and still NO grades posted... I have been stressing out over what I got... I have also realized that getting your grades is 1000 times more stressful when you actually care about your grades... It is made even more stressful by the fact that I had a 4.0 GPA as of Fall semester and I really really want to keep it at that... Why is it that when you are going to High School for free and don't really want to get your grades you get them really fast but when you are in college and paying to go and WANT your grades they make you wait for what feels like an eternity... It is so aggravating...

I am ecstatic that I am getting to go back to my LARP this weekend... For those of you reading this that don't know what that means LARP stands for Live Action Role Playing... Basically I am going to a camp site for a weekend and beating people with foam weaponry... Great way to get your frustrations out... If you want to check it out click the link above... It is a lot of fun... I will be going with Cigar Freak, Charlie, and a couple other people that don't have nicknames...

Well I think that that is it... Thank you for bearing with my randomness to the end folks...

Saturday, May 8, 2010

Mother's Day

Mother's Day is tomorrow and I felt it would be appropriate to write a blog about it...

I find it wrong that you see zillions of card for mom but maybe 5 for stepmoms and maybe 2 for a woman that was like a mother to you(like dad's girlfriend that hasn't officially become a stepmom or a female that if your mom died was like your mother) ... I think that this is sad... I always complained about it when I was younger and trying to find a mother's day card for my step mother... Now I have been with a man for 3 and a half years and I love his kids like they are my own... I don't need his daughters to call me mom(they both have mothers-bio) The problem is that most people don't think to say anything to those women because everyone only says things about Mom(biological)...

Please remember those that may not have given birth to you but love you like they did this mother's day and every mother's day after this....

Happy Mother's Day for any mothers, stepmothers or women that were like a mother to somebody and grandmothers!!!

Thursday, May 6, 2010

Bum ankles suck

So... I have been on crutches for 2 days now and it completely sucks... You would think that we would have developed more comfortable crutches than we have... I mean HARD rubber where your hands and underarms go... WTF... A person who is not used to having to use them is faced with carrying their weight on the palms of their hands... my hands, wrists and shoulder and upper arms are killing me...

All the advances we make and we go backwards with crutches!!! I mean the old wooden ones (which I have also had to use) were so much more comfortable... At least they had a soft foam like thing where these metal ones have hard rubber... Are they trying to make them so uncomfortable that people take themselves off them early??? I mean that is not a good thing since they tell you to use them for a specific period of time... I am supposed to use them till the end of saturday... I don't even want to really use them after today!!! I will though so that my ankle heals properly and I will not have to use them again anytime soon hopefully *knocks on wood*...

Well till the next time folks... Live life don't just survive it....

Sunday, May 2, 2010

Technology

Ahhh... Technology, it is supposed to make life easier but it usually just aggervates you more...

I remember when instead of checking my email box i checked my mail box... It used to be so exciting and make me so happy to get a letter in the mail... Now it is just the usual... Like my mail box (which never seems to have a real letter anymore) my email box is always crammed full with junk mail or spam as it is called on the web... I am not even sure that my boyfriend's kids know how to properly adress an envelope or where the stamp would even go... I miss getting letter instead of bills and junk mail...

I also remember when cashiers didn't look at me funny when I pay with cash... They always ask debit or credit when I pull out my wallet... I remember when my mom went to the grocery store and they asked her cash or check... I pulled my wallet out of my purse and the cashier said cash or credit... When I pulled out cash and said "Cash" she looked at me weird and didn't seem like she knew what to do... LOL...

That brings me back to my next point... How many times have you gone to a store and handed the person at the register cash and then realized you had the change on you??? What happened then??? The poor young kid at the register looked like their head was about to explode while the tried to figure out your correct change,right... I know it has happened to me on several occassions... Sometimes I like to see how long it will take them to figure out how much they should give me back and don't tell them for awhile... LOL... I have even had some break out their cell phone and use to calculator to figure out that I get $1.10 back...

If all the technology in the world were to fail then the people born after 1990 would have no idea what to do... I am sure they do not know how a card catalog works, how to socialize without a networking site or cell phone and how would they every know that for a $10.80 bill if I give you $11 then I get 20 cents back...

Technology, what would the world do if it all were to fail???

Smart Cars

So I have seen a few of these tiny cars that look like a roller skate with an engine in it... you know those silly looking smart cars that I and probably other people wonder how anyone other than a little person would be able to squeeze themselves into it at all let alone comfortably...

well i found myself walking home from work and I saw one of these pill boxes on wheels and started to think.... When did Matchbox or Hot Wheels start making real cars instead of toys... That thought in turn led me to another one... if either of the two aforementioned companies made a smart car toy you would probably require tweezers to play with it because the things are already so tiny...

I also thought how practical is that car... I mean if you get in an accident I am sure that your engine would probably be in your lap... Also where would you put the groceries after you go shopping??? I know that when I go shopping all the groceries would not fit in the passenger seat...

I also take trips to NY and NJ often to visit with family... not as often as I would like but still enough so that i had to wonder where the hell my suitcase would go... and not just mine but my boyfriends and his kids... then I had another thought...

Forget the kids suitcases where would the KIDS go??? As far I could tell there is no back seat... I guess this is not a car for somebody who has a family or is planning on having one... And I mean how dorky do they look driving down the street... I have expect that when I hear one finally toot its horn it is going to sound like a dogs squeaky toy or a clown nose...

Maybe I am alone is my thinking but personally I think that the smart cars are really quite stupid...

Tuesday, April 27, 2010

Things my students have taught me

I have always considered myself to be an intelligent person but some of my greatest lessons have come from not a book or high priced college education but from my students at the Maryland School for the Blind (MSB)...

I have learned that you do not need eyesight to see but you only need your heart to truly see.

I have learned that there is nothing more beautiful than to see the smile of a child with severe disabilities when they accomplish something like wiping their own mouth with a napkin(something we do so easily and take for granted we can) for the first time to cheer and praise and the pride behind that smile.

I have learned the value of sticking to learning something no matter how long it may take.

I have learned not to take anything for granted and to see the beauty in even the smallest things.

I am learning to see with my heart and not just my eyes.

I love the students at MSB and I love how working with them and seeing them make progress makes me feel. They haven't taught me all they know yet and I am still learning. Just remember when you are feeling down and like things are the worst they can be that they can always be worse. You could be blind, blind and deaf, blind and autistic, blind and in a wheelchair or any combination of the above at the same time like so many of my students. These students have huge obstacles that they never asked for to overcome and yet they smile more than most "normal" people that I have met. They don't take anything for granted and take pride in things that they accomplish that we would consider simple tasks but to them take a little more time and a little more effort and makes them a little more independent.

aren't there more important things to worry about

I am a news junkie... I watch the news when I wake up before work and after class I will watch the eleven o'clock news... I have a problem with what is called "news"...

Tiger Woods having slept with enough women to have a different one for each month of the year... Tiger is apparantly a man whore enough said... why did the news feel the need to cover this for months... plenty of men cheat all the time (women do too) and nobody cares... why does it suddenly matter, is it because he can hit a tiny white ball with a metal club into a hole hundreds of yards away... WTF!!!

Then we have Jesse James... The man cheated with some chick that has more ink than skin (there is nothing wrong with tattoos, i have 2)... it was moderately interesting the first time you heard about it and saw the pic of the girl he cheated with but who the hell still cares... well I mean aside Sandra Bullock(not sure i spelled it right)...

Aren't we still fighting 2 wars??? What about what is going on with the economy??? I don't need or want an update on the anchor persons pregnancy nor do I care since I don't know her... I don't need everyone on the show telling jokes... if I was watching something to laugh I would watch a comedian... I wish that the news would stick to what it is supposed to stick to and that is the NEWS!!! not who is cheating on who with whoever... not how pregnant the anchor is and when she is due... I also don't care about some of the stupid crap that gets called news...

They spend more time talking about Tiger and Jesse than they do about the guy that got shot getting chinese food, the wars we are involved in, and anything else that people need to know... I mean there is ET, TMZ and Access Hollywood as well as other shows of that type that if I want to know who is cheating on who and who is dating who I can watch and find out... When I turn on the local news I don't want to hear about Brangelina adding another adopted or biological kid to their brood because I dont care... stick to the real news and leave that crap to the tabloids and the entertainment news shows...